Jump over to Enlighten New Jersey to see the latest Carnival of New Jersey Bloggers! Some interesting reads this week…
Enjoy!
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Jump over to Enlighten New Jersey to see the latest Carnival of New Jersey Bloggers! Some interesting reads this week…
Enjoy!
Posted on by Joe
This book, originally written in 1937, is a classic in terms of how to handle people in your social or business life. Dale Carnegie, author of the book, has a writing style that is especially nice and easy to read. For comparison’s sake, I’m in the middle of reading a book written about 6 months ago right now (review coming soon) and it’s damn near torture to get through each paragraph. The story is alright, but the writing style – bleh!
Carnegie offers a series of “lists” and ideas on how to handle everything from a pissed off client to a client who doesn’t pay his bills to someone who you WANT to be a client, but just won’t jump on board. One of the best parts about Carnegie’s methods is that he provides real examples for his readers to look at as well as testimonials from folks who’ve taken his course (Carnegie taught these methods in a course in the earlier part of the 20th Century).
I also admire Carnegie’s focus on what is important in each lesson. You can tell that he’s not writing this book just to get some money or just to get it out there; he writes with a purpose. If he comes across something that he feels everyone reading should especially be reminded of, he re-writes it, italicizes it, and tells you, “Hey – pay attention to this point!” Again, that’s something that is not only missing from today’s similar books, but something that is equally all-too-frequently absent from many of today’s classrooms.
No one could talk about this book and not give their own story, so here’s a brief one from me. I read this book and it told me many things that I already knew. Think of problems (or what may seem to be a problem) from the other person’s point of view; smile when you’re on the telephone – it’ll make your conversation nicer; always accept blame first, etc. Well, i decided to just try that smiling on the telephone bit and you know what? It really works. What actually caught my attention more than just the smiling was the amount of times that I’d answer the phone and actually grimace because I didn’t feel like being bothered.
This happened to tie in neatly with a homily that my priest gave at Church a few weeks ago where the point was to go out and live life as opposed to just existing. I think that I’ve done a heck of a job at living life (so far), but I found it odd that whenever a phone call came in with a new opportunity to go out or a new possibility to go do something or even if it was someone from work asking a question or a favor, I would immediately grimace.
So I’m going to try to stop doing that so much! Of course, if I don’t like you to begin with – I’m still going to not like talking to you…but then again, you probably won’t call anyway!
Overall, I give this book an extremely high rating. It’s rare that I read any self-help type of books because I’m completely kick ass, but this book had more than the generic “be nice” angle in it. It had more than the “take responsibility for your own actions” stuff, too. It gave real examples of how to deal with real life situations (many of which you can probably relate to). I highly recommend reading this book – and if you do, let me know what you think!
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As if the last post wasn’t bad enough, I just browsed over to The Coaster’s website and found some lovely information about Ocean Township.
First was the lovely police blotter. A quick rundown of what you can find in Ocean Township: tons of marijuana, people who break planters outside of locally owned businesses, purse snatchers, and robberies at the local gas station. I wonder how this will be the fault of college students…
Next was a separate story detailing MORE burglaries! Ugh! Come on already!
What the hell is it going to take for this stupid township to STOP their completely disgusting sole focus off of college renters and on to the rest of this township? The place is falling apart!
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The Asbury Park Press reports that an Ocean Township man had a 429-count indictment charged against him for aggravated sexual assault against children. What a completely, utterly disgusting human being. What a pile of shit.
Who the fuck goes out of their way to videotape and hurt little children? This guy ought to be “dropped” into a woodchipper. Absolutely disgusting.
And you know what really makes me fucking sick? There’s a STRONG chance that those idiots in Ocean Township could have caught this slimy fuckface earlier if they spent less time destroying the civil rights of local college students. Hey listen, it’s obvious from reading my blog that I jab at the Ocean Township Police and the Ocean Township residents every chance I get because the truth is – they think that the worst thing in their town are these college students that come in for 9 months out of the year.
But a story like this shows you how blind these people are to reality. This fucking swine has a FOUR HUNDRED AND TWENTY NINE count indictment for hurting little kids! Good Lord! Is it really so fucking important to make a measly $100 on a bogus noise complaint against a college student when you’ve got this asshole in your town?
Ocean Township needs to wake up – NOW.
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The guys over at Phired Up Productions, LLC recently wrote a book on fraternity recruitment. The book, entitled “Good Guys: The Eight Steps to Limitless Possibility for Fraternity Recruitment,” is a step-by-step approach to getting better men into your fraternity and to utilize the skills that those men have to create a better chapter overall.
I really enjoyed reading this book as I suspect many fraternity volunteers would enjoy reading it. What really got me about the book was the universality of the message (to fraternity men, that is). Anyone who has ever taken over a chapter of a struggling fraternity knows that it is one of the hardest things in the world to change that chapter into something worthwhile. Not only do you have the innate problem of running a fraternity chapter which is most likely stacked with hormone-enraged young men, but you have the old 1970’s stereotypes that you have to overcome, too.
But rest assured, it CAN be done! The secret to reforming a failing chapter of any fraternity is shared by the Phired Up team in “Good Guys” and was the same method that we used at the Delta Beta Chapter of Sigma Pi Fraternity at Monmouth University – look at your ritual, read it, understand it, and follow it. For fraternity men, the “ritual” is what makes you unique. There are things said and ideas brought up in Sigma Pi’s ritual that are wholly unique to our organization, just as there are likely to be the same secrets and mysteries in your own organizations. If you’re a fraternity man, ask yourself this question:
If you are NOT following what it is that makes you unique, then what exactly is the difference between joining your organization or another one? The letters on the shirt? Guys – shirts are just made of fabric. What? Are you going to talk about how “tight your brotherhood” is? Well look at that for a minute. If you do the same thing that a bunch of guys who live off-campus and are NOT in a fraternity would do for each other, then what’s the difference other than that you’re wearing the same fabric on your chest?
There IS something that makes fraternity men different and it’s got nothing to do with Bluto Blutarsky and his drunken rampages. Fraternity men stand for something. What do you stand for? Do you even know? Is it time that you picked up your ritual book and really, actually read through it?
This is just one area in which “Good Guys” excels as a “How to Guide” for operating a fraternity. Which brings me to my next point – though this book is being marketed as a guide to recruitment it really is a guide to overhauling your chapter and making it something worthy of being proud of. I e-mailed the guys from Phired Up and told them that they’re really selling themselves short by saying it’s simply a recruitment book – and they understood my point. However, I also understand their point that recruitment is the lifeblood of a fraternity.
Often, as alumni volunteers or even men working for fraternities, we tell our undergraduates that they are running a small business. And that’s true, except that there are no long-term employees in this particular business other than the volunteer advisors and the Executive Office staff. This is a hard concept for undergraduates to grasp because they are joining a lifelong brotherhood, and that is also true. What the “catch” is here, though, is that you won’t have a chapter to go back to during Homecoming or other alumni-themed events if you choose to be shitty with your recruitment. “Good Guys” teaches you how to have solid recruitment throughout the entire year and how to constantly bring in men that are worth your organization’s time and effort.
Sure, some bone-headed fraternity guys would read this and say, “Whatever, man. I’ve got a bunch of guys who like to party and I’m sticking with what works for us.” Well hey, that’s good for you. And please, party your asses off now, because the chances of you having a chapter that you’d want to bring your family back to one day or have your son join are slim to none. But hey, kegger this weekend, right?
That’s the other thing that “Good Guys” touches on and something that I’ve begun to talk about with my undergraduates – being a top-ranked, highly efficient chapter and having ridiculous parties that you’ll always remember are NOT mutually exclusive! No one EVER said it’s one or the other. In fact, I think there is a solid argument to say that if you have a highly efficient chapter, your parties will be better overall. Think about it – doesn’t it make sense?
My recommendation for “Good Guys” is as high as it could be. It’s a quick, good read that many of you could probably get through in a night. And what’s also great about it is that you can purchase an e-copy of the book for about $12 instead of a hard copy. If any fraternity men would like to talk some more about the pros and cons of this book, please contact me. It’s definitely worth the money!